(September 22, 2021 at 4:13 pm)Angrboda Wrote:(September 22, 2021 at 4:10 pm)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: The the importance of the happiness of the other person. Turn the Heinlein definition around - can you truly say you love someone if you’re indifferent to their happiness? If the happiness factor is removed, it isn’t love. Anything else - physical attractiveness, sex, fear of being alone - is fair game.
Boru
Yeah but most of us aren't indifferent to anyone's happiness short of complete strangers and when it's convenient. Even the drunk at the bus stop evokes concern in many of us. We are a care/ful species by nature.
And is it not love if I need me more than I need you? That seems to be the foundation of many a breakup, even where there's love.
If two people split because one is willing to hurt the other, I contend that it isn’t love. They may be concern about the other person, they may feel bad for the hurt involved, but that’s not love. It’s more like falling out of love.
Boru
‘I can’t be having with this.’ - Esmeralda Weatherwax
