(October 22, 2021 at 1:28 am)Helios Wrote:(October 21, 2021 at 7:52 pm)LadyForCamus Wrote: What is “manliness,” and why is crying antithetical to it?The weird thing is IA claims he cares about men's issues but endorses a mindset that hurts men. Men being taught not to deal with their emotions in a healthy way will lead to them dealing with those emotions in an unhealthy and destructive way that will harm themselves and the people around them.
About 30 years ago, I went on a weekend course. The curse was on being a man today or some such. It was Radix (neo Reichian Psychology) Some of it included some Gestalt exercises.
This was a great course for me to attend.
It has been said that sport is Australia's religion. There's a lot of truth in that claim. Sadly, that has meant Australia has developed a toxic macho culture. To the extent that the neanderthals who play our sports often get done for Pub fights where they have glassed someone or perhaps just sexually assaulted some poor young woman.
We learn that it's fine for a bloke to show anger or even happiness, but most definitely not fear or sadness. No fucking crying, that's for wimps. Women may show sadness or fear, but not anger. So I learned to be a stoic imploder. This meant that I would get depressed and that led to years of therapy.
The last time I cried as in sobbing, was at my mother's funeral in 2019. My best friend in all the world died 3 months later. Nary a tear did I shed. Before that it was in 1991 when my marriage ended. For the first week I would just burst into tears for no apparent reason. I'm so glad I could.
These days I sometimes shed a tear for something sad on Netflix or Youtube. This how it is, not how I'd like it to be. I have noticed that with age, my emotions tend to be closer to the surface. Not sure why, perhaps because I care so little what anyone think, apart from say my siblings.
