If life is temporary, why is finding a date so HARD?

[snow_wolf22]

I'm curious what ya'll think. I won't go into too much detail, but I'm curious. I'm not religious, so I would love to hear another persons opinion from someone that also isn't religious.

If life is temporary, and the human race as a whole is temporary (what I mean is, the sun eventually will go out, and extinct the human race), why would a dating partner be almost impossible to date? Don't you think women would be more generous? What's the purpose of natural selection in a temporary existence? Maybe this implies reincarnation, since life demands you give it your all and be the best of the best, then perhaps even if I don't in this life, then my next life I'll have a chance, or not that one, but eventually I'll have the good go around.

So maybe life always wants the best, life reincarnates us to get a chance. I don't believe in heaven or hell. I believe we either die permanently or we're reincarnated. But I feel like, as I stated above, that if women are as picky as they are, and hard to get, that life MUST be perpetual. I think nature is so intelligent, it not only gave us reason, it already "has" that reason, and it knows that life is unfair, so one day, we all will get fame. Those that have fame, will one day experience wanting that fame, and they'll never know they had it.

So then technically speaking, does it even matter at all not being able to find a date?

In a sense it feels like whether I'm loosing or winning, I'm always winning. But I always get a gentle reminder "dang this really sucks being single" or "dang this time around in this reincarnation of life is not a lucky one", because I watch other couples naturally getting it on, meanwhile in order for me to get there I have to put an amount of effort that surpasses those people that don't have to barely lift a finger or break a sweat to get what I have to work EXTREMELY hard to get.

To summarize.

If life is temporary, and given the above info I added to kinda support both sides of the argument, why would a women still, even still, be so HARD to date for some of us men? Given the fact that LIFE IS TEMPORARY. And let me put this into perspective. If you're running out of time for a task, you might get desperate and cut corners. When you think of how VAST the universe of existence is, and measure how little time we actually are alive for, there's practically no time "left" for the task of being alive, so why would a women even have the "time" to be selective and ONLY date a man that has maybe a nice jaw line, good muscles. What's the purpose? My focus is kinda here, by asking "What's the purpose"?

What if on the flip side, life "accidentally" made "life" demand natural selection be top priority. What if? Does that make sense. What if beauty was actually created on accident and it actually is a disease or something that we classify as normal, or something. I mean when you suffer so much rejection, your mind tends to wonder (like mine) in ALL directions.

I hope my post makes sense.
lol.

This is nothing but self pity on your part. When I was young, I was a klutz, a dork, pimple face with braces. I used to think "why don't girls like me?" The bottom line is nobody is obligated to be attracted to you, just like nobody was obligated to be attracted to me. But then I got older and wiser and now accept the problem wasn't them, the problem was me and how I felt about myself. 

I did get rejected, lots. But I also dated and was once married. it was when I accepted myself first others saw who I was. Rection happens to all of us, and that is simply part of life. 

"What if beauty was actually created on accident and it was actually a disease" You. 

On top of being an extremely disgusting statement it is also extremely ignorant. This longwinded pile of garbage is really your own self loathing. 

If you are secure with yourself first, it won't even matter if you are not dating at all.

These are not intended to be "disgusting". But thank you for your input.

Thank you for your other input as well.

I would not blame you for being you and not being attractive while you were looking the way you were and the type of person you were. I think everyone is beautiful exactly as they are and we all deserve love the love we want.

I do not agree the problem was you, I believe the problem is an issue beyond our control, and therefore a lack of understanding from the other parties that maybe you were actually very capable of being given the love you needed. I would factor in that to my equation that life is temporary and it would not matter for people to be soo picky to not choose you, in my opinion, is ignorant and lower minded on their behalf, nothing to do with you at all.