Who counts as queer?

[FrustratedFool]

Inspired by a recent IG post:

Who/what counts as 'queer' (ie part of the LGBTQ+) spectrum?

Note: I'm not asking whether it matters, or whether anyone should care, I'm simply asking who belongs (and by extension what the criteria are).

My opinion: all non-harmful sexualities outside of alloheterosexual, all genders other than cisman/woman are clearly inside (to me).

I tend towards also including sexual relationships that are outside of the monogamous mainstream (so might well include polyamory) and possibly also lifestyle fetishism, though this is not so clear to me (if you have a good argument for/against please present it).

Thoughts?

You seem obsessed with labels.

I'm interested in labels and interested in the cultural and political discussion (and real world consequences) that arise from debates over labels.

I don't think I qualify as obsessed about anything.

Does my interest in labels and discussion and bother you?