Who counts as queer?

[FrustratedFool]

Can you expand/explain?

It's a pride thing, I think. Some people are proud to be gay, bisexual, trans, whatever. This, in my mind, is what makes them queer. They stand out because they want to stand out, they want to be noticed for being gay/bisexual/trans whatever.

To clarify, I'm not asking who belongs under the Pride umbrella, I'm asking who belongs under the LGBTQ+ umbrella.

For example, almost everyone will agree that a gay man is LGBTQ+. 
Same with a transwoman.

But is an asexual man LGBTQ+?  
Or is a heterosexual polyamorous throuple?


I hope that clarifies what I'm asking.