Is "Be the part of the change you want to see in the world!" bullshit?

[Ahriman]

I suspect that a person who actually knows how to be effective wouldn't have to be an asshole. 

But I find that I'm in the minority on this point. I've learned that lots of people think they are justified in being assholes a lot of the time.

Yes. And that's a problem. The only people who would actually make meaningful changes in this world, are all assholes. And assholes don't know how to be effective leaders. It's as if this world is specifically designed for the meaningless "rich good, poor bad" paradigm to be what everyone thinks is the truth.