RE: Deceitful - to be or not to be! That is the question!
July 12, 2012 at 5:38 pm
(This post was last modified: July 12, 2012 at 5:40 pm by Mystic.)
Thanks everyone. What do you guys think is the "higher" road option here? I agree it's not wrong, but what do you guys think is "higher" road?
Here is some pros of keeping it secret:
1) Keeps my family happy (important to me)..
2) Stops a whole drama around me with my friends.
3) Stops a drama around me with my family (backlash from community)
4) Keeps friends as friends.
Negatives:
1) I can't marry a Muslim woman, and having a relationship to a non-Muslim woman will be seen as wrong, and these things will come out. So when it comes out, it will look like I am being disobedient and ignoring commands of God, which I find a worse image then disbelieving in religion (even though the latter in Islam is worse, I rather have the image of honestly disbelieving religion, then disobeying God's commands).
2) I feel like I'm two faced, hiding under a mask, and although perhaps not wrong like you guys say, there is no malice behind it, it just feels it's more honorable to show whom you really are, and not pretend to be something otherwise.
3) I feel like it's a sort of cowardice motive, fear of what people will think of me, which I know will be negative. And I hate being a coward.
Here is some pros of keeping it secret:
1) Keeps my family happy (important to me)..
2) Stops a whole drama around me with my friends.
3) Stops a drama around me with my family (backlash from community)
4) Keeps friends as friends.
Negatives:
1) I can't marry a Muslim woman, and having a relationship to a non-Muslim woman will be seen as wrong, and these things will come out. So when it comes out, it will look like I am being disobedient and ignoring commands of God, which I find a worse image then disbelieving in religion (even though the latter in Islam is worse, I rather have the image of honestly disbelieving religion, then disobeying God's commands).
2) I feel like I'm two faced, hiding under a mask, and although perhaps not wrong like you guys say, there is no malice behind it, it just feels it's more honorable to show whom you really are, and not pretend to be something otherwise.
3) I feel like it's a sort of cowardice motive, fear of what people will think of me, which I know will be negative. And I hate being a coward.
