There is a sliver of the OP that, once removed from the context of the rest of the post, I had sympathy for.
That has to be a tough aspect to being gay: there's a smaller pond to fish in when looking for that significant other.
I remember how difficult it was at times during my single years once I got out of school. You name it, I did it. Personal ads, bars, singles' mixers, joining clubs of various kinds, not one but two dating services, asking friends and family to fix me up, etc. It still always felt like I was scraping the bottom of an empty barrel. I could tell you my share of dating horror stories, from the one who stood me up and couldn't understand why she needed to apologize to my first fiance who didn't want to wear the engagement ring in front of her family for fear of upsetting her mother. Eventually, I started going overseas, an option also not open to gays. I kinda wish I'd discovered my bisexuality sooner as it would have opened up more possible options.
I finally did meet that special someone online. She lived in California and we were just online friends for years. Things sparked when we finally met in person. Relationships that start as friendships seem to work the best, from what I understand. In any event, she could tell her share of frustrations and dating horror stories as well, some of which made mine seem mild in comparison.
Bottom line is that being single once you're out of school can be tough for either gender. I can only imagine the problem is magnified for gays since they have a much smaller population to draw upon.
As for the rest of the OP, fix up the problems with yourself first before you can ever be ready for a relationship with anyone else of either gender. Even if you could magically make yourself straight, your problems would still be with you. What you need to change about yourself is that part about you being a misanthrope. As long as you carry around all that anger, whatever the source may be, you won't be fit for any relationship with anyone. Get some real therapy.
Quote:Less chance of finding love, obviously.
That has to be a tough aspect to being gay: there's a smaller pond to fish in when looking for that significant other.
I remember how difficult it was at times during my single years once I got out of school. You name it, I did it. Personal ads, bars, singles' mixers, joining clubs of various kinds, not one but two dating services, asking friends and family to fix me up, etc. It still always felt like I was scraping the bottom of an empty barrel. I could tell you my share of dating horror stories, from the one who stood me up and couldn't understand why she needed to apologize to my first fiance who didn't want to wear the engagement ring in front of her family for fear of upsetting her mother. Eventually, I started going overseas, an option also not open to gays. I kinda wish I'd discovered my bisexuality sooner as it would have opened up more possible options.
I finally did meet that special someone online. She lived in California and we were just online friends for years. Things sparked when we finally met in person. Relationships that start as friendships seem to work the best, from what I understand. In any event, she could tell her share of frustrations and dating horror stories as well, some of which made mine seem mild in comparison.
Bottom line is that being single once you're out of school can be tough for either gender. I can only imagine the problem is magnified for gays since they have a much smaller population to draw upon.
As for the rest of the OP, fix up the problems with yourself first before you can ever be ready for a relationship with anyone else of either gender. Even if you could magically make yourself straight, your problems would still be with you. What you need to change about yourself is that part about you being a misanthrope. As long as you carry around all that anger, whatever the source may be, you won't be fit for any relationship with anyone. Get some real therapy.
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"The trinity can be equated to having your cake and eating it too."
... -Lucent, trying to defend the Trinity concept
"(Yahweh's) actions are good because (Yahweh) is the ultimate standard of goodness. That’s not begging the question"
... -Statler Waldorf, Christian apologist
"The trinity can be equated to having your cake and eating it too."
... -Lucent, trying to defend the Trinity concept
"(Yahweh's) actions are good because (Yahweh) is the ultimate standard of goodness. That’s not begging the question"
... -Statler Waldorf, Christian apologist
