Atheist and ex-gay?

[sleep]

if you're ashamed of being a femmy gay man, and you're able to change that aspect to yourself, what's to prevent you from being a 'straight acting' gay man?

I've tried. Most people can't just change their personality like that, especially such a drastic change. Sports just don't interest me, neither do cars, neither do other stereotypical "guy" stuff. I hate most heavy metal and rap (the only music straight men seem to be socially allowed to like). And I hate rough-housing, I'm not tough at all.

Also, perhaps you met more bad lesbians because you said you "kinda" are one... and I met more bad gay men because I am one. Because anyone I know who isn't a gay man says the same thing you did, that their friends are, they know plenty of good ones, etc. Because you didn't try to date them and don't know them on that level, so you don't see their bad sides. I guess straight people have them to.