(August 25, 2012 at 1:17 pm)sleep Wrote: I've tried. Most people can't just change their personality like that, especially such a drastic change. Sports just don't interest me, neither do cars, neither do other stereotypical "guy" stuff. I hate most heavy metal and rap (the only music straight men seem to be socially allowed to like). And I hate rough-housing, I'm not tough at all.
You don't need to change your personality, because living with whatever orientation you have does not mean you have to adhere to stereotypes to legitimize yourself. Be whatever makes you comfortable.
Quote:Also, perhaps you met more bad lesbians because you said you "kinda" are one... and I met more bad gay men because I am one. Because anyone I know who isn't a gay man says the same thing you did, that their friends are, they know plenty of good ones, etc. Because you didn't try to date them and don't know them on that level, so you don't see their bad sides. I guess straight people have them to.
I've seen people of all varieties think there's no one out there, or that everyone in their preferred demographic is flawed in some way. It's not true. It'll make finding a partner more difficult if you're discriminating in your taste, but being gay does not automatically force a person to adopt certain character traits.
I would suggest not fighting against yourself like this. If you like men, keep liking men. Keep seeking them. You'll find one if you're persistent and you learn from your failures. Trying to be straight when you aren't is essentially living in denial, and would that really make you happier?
