Men and Women Can't Be "Just Friends"

[thesummerqueen]

Indeed but I would add that the emotional side is not all black-and-white as we seem to want to think. There are shades of gray between endless-love and don't-give-a-crap. Friendship is, after all, an emotional connection too. Others may disagree but I've found that even with the most casual of sex I always feel something of a connection, even if just the friendly kind.

Oh, sure, peach - I totally agree. It's just that I think people don't explore their real feelings enough or society leads them to believe that if you feel sexual attraction or something deeper than "acquaintance" then you must (to use the middle school term) "like-like" them and thus it's "romantic".

Does the man make me feel like the whole universe is turning around me as an axis? Do I feel like together we can build a good and productive "world" between the two of us? Is life sharper and brighter because he's around? Does he make me want to be better than I am, even if he accepts the good and bad about me? That's "romance" to me.

I can feel "close" to many people - including close enough to feel pleasure with them - but to me someone who is actually a romantic interest is someone who inspires you to greater heights and helps you get there.