(January 31, 2013 at 7:37 pm)John V Wrote: Violet Lily Blossom = smartest person on this forum (other than myself of course). Well done.
Brian37 Wrote:Bottom line is we've told this jackass time after time that sexuality is a range not an absoluteNo, you haven't, and you're now applying stereotypes yourself.
Personally I think that a bi continuum model better describes human sexuality than a straight/gay dichotomy.
Abba just happens to be about 98% to the gay side.
I also know that Freddie Mercury was bi, and have a Queen CD in my car. He was in my opinion the best male rock singer of his generation. "Fat Bottomed Girls" is a personal favorite, in more ways than one.
The difference is that I really don't care if you call me gay. So what?
Look if you were just screwing around teasing me, I think it would have been better to let me in on the joke. I do not however think it is funny to fuck with someone just to fuck with them, especially when they do not know you.
I would not care for example if Violet or Tara were to call me gay, because I know that they would just be teasing. I would care if you really were a bigot. In that context I most certainly would not like it. Because in the case of a bigot calling me gay, they would use it as a slur. I don't see being gay as a slur so why should I put up with it if I think someone really is using it as a slur?
This isn't about being gay. It is about how a word can be used as a slur.
Context matters so if you are going to joke around like that it is better to get to know someone first and if you don't know them, then maybe it is better to let them in on the joke or not joke until you get to know them better.
