Festive, I don't talk to my father either. He's a narcissist to the extreme, and I simply couldn't deal with him anymore. I went to therapy over it, and I'll tell you what all that money spent on the therapist taught me:
People who are bad for you are bad for you. If you have tried many times to live with that person as they are and you have failed, it is probably time to give it a rest, but to try not to do that with hatred. You can't change anyone else, but it's possible that one day the person in question will change on their own, so be open to that possibility.
I don't hate my father. I see him twice a year at family birthday parties, and I speak to him civilly and watch his behavior and talk to family members still in touch with to see if he has changed (he hasn't). I'm sorry that I can't accept him as he is, but I can't. I'm much happier without him in my life, and after therapy I don't feel guilty about it.
People who are bad for you are bad for you. If you have tried many times to live with that person as they are and you have failed, it is probably time to give it a rest, but to try not to do that with hatred. You can't change anyone else, but it's possible that one day the person in question will change on their own, so be open to that possibility.
I don't hate my father. I see him twice a year at family birthday parties, and I speak to him civilly and watch his behavior and talk to family members still in touch with to see if he has changed (he hasn't). I'm sorry that I can't accept him as he is, but I can't. I'm much happier without him in my life, and after therapy I don't feel guilty about it.
