Just why, bitch?

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except I support the equality feminist message and have utter contempt for this small but hugely influential group of totalitarians

Me too- perhaps in less strong words than "utter contempt." My point is that the current construction of the stereotypical "feminazi" feminist isn't just something made by the radical feminists themselves.

It is very rarely to never about inequality for men.

Perhaps not specifically, but then, feminism is, specifically, a movement based around redressing the- more widespread and obvious- inequality toward women. This does not change the fact that, in redressing those issues and working toward correcting the assumption that women have certain roles they should take, and ones they should not, many of the inequalities toward men would also be repaired. Men wouldn't be disadvantaged in child custody cases if "women=mother" wasn't supposed to be the norm.