Children and punishments

[Chad32]

My parents beat me when I was a kid. I can tell you that it did shit to teach me anything. They say children can't be reasoned with, have you tried reasoning with an adult while trying to crawl under a bed because they're coming at you? So I was a bad child and I deserved it and now I'm a bad child for not forgiving them. I don't see how this works out. I'm on good terms with my mum now, but my relationship with my dad is nonexistent. Why would you beat children who can't defend themselves? Seriously why would you? I babysat some awful children and it never made me want to hit them, there isn't this urge in me to hurt someone, adult or child. If I were to beat my own father then I would be a monster. But when he did it it was "discipline".

Yea, right.

If you can't teach a child properly without using violence, don't have children. It's like if you can't teach your dog properly without beating them, don't get dogs.

I have a really shitty relationship with my dad too. He doesn't hit me anymore, though, and mainly sticks to verbal abuse. Other people assure me that he loves me, but I think something is definitely wrong if you require a third party to remind you that someone loves you.