(March 4, 2014 at 5:53 pm)Cato Wrote:(March 4, 2014 at 4:01 pm)It Is i Wrote: So leaving the apple directly beneath the tree from which it fell is the solution? Yes, let failure breed contempt! Fuck everyone who doesn't perform to our standards!
Seriously? Now we let our father's failures become our tenor? Personally, I'll not perpetuate my father's failures by allowing them to make my heart cold on top of all the perceived loss in my earlier life.
Seriously? Your argument would have merit if I had repeated his failures as a father. Cold heart? Hardly, things could change if he decided to return calls/communications, but he doesn't. Contempt? You bet your ass, he earned it.
I attend funerals out of respect and fondness for the one who passed or out of respect and fondness for a person that needs support while grieving/paying last respects. I do not attend funerals because of some unwritten obligation based on biological closeness. If people are concerned about their funeral attendance, they should do a better job of fostering relationships while they're living.
As far as the 'fuck everyone that doesn't perform to our standards' jive, my standard for fathers is simple...help rear your children. If a man can't live up to this standard, then yes, he can go fuck himself.
Good for you god damn it! You got that off your chest! Whew! I feel better, how about you?
P.S.
My father is still a fucking prick, but I'll be damned before I let his cowardice color my courage!
Be well fatherless traveler.
