So, I have a facebook account. And I forgot that I sent an invite to an old friend of my mom's. She happens to be my old dance instructor for church events my friends and I would participate in back when we were children.
I recently joined a group on facebook called "I Am An Atheist" and she left a comment on my status saying: "Are you serious? This is not the Cristina I know!" to quote exactly. Which she even misspelled my name by forgetting the "h."
I was surprised to see this (it happened only a couple hours ago), and thought long and hard about what the best response (or whether lack thereof) would be.
I eventually ended up not replying and just deleting the notification on my page that allowed her and others to see that I had recently joined the group, even though I'm still a member and if you visit my page and look at what groups I'm in, you can still find me a member.
In short, I deleted the update without erasing my membership.
I don't want this to explode in my face and I'm wondering if I even did the right thing by deleting the update.
I want to keep my identity as an atheist hidden from anyone that can have contact with my family. But I know that means compromising myself and belittling myself by pretending to be something I'm not. Well, maybe not pretending. I don't say whether I am religious or not. But if my family already knows and challenge me on something (which my mom has been challenging me on little things here and there), if I keep silent, am I making not only myself but all other atheist look bad?
And if they don't know I don't want them to find out. And it's centered around so much deceit! I HATE it!
I hate not being able to have a family that can't accept me for who I am!
I know I'm really emotional right now, and I'll probably regret ever posting this thread. I know I'll hate myself later for sounding so weak and troubling others with my problems. But, I have to know.
How can I handle this situation better?
Did I take the appropriate actions when I found her comment?
I recently joined a group on facebook called "I Am An Atheist" and she left a comment on my status saying: "Are you serious? This is not the Cristina I know!" to quote exactly. Which she even misspelled my name by forgetting the "h."
I was surprised to see this (it happened only a couple hours ago), and thought long and hard about what the best response (or whether lack thereof) would be.
I eventually ended up not replying and just deleting the notification on my page that allowed her and others to see that I had recently joined the group, even though I'm still a member and if you visit my page and look at what groups I'm in, you can still find me a member.
In short, I deleted the update without erasing my membership.
I don't want this to explode in my face and I'm wondering if I even did the right thing by deleting the update.
I want to keep my identity as an atheist hidden from anyone that can have contact with my family. But I know that means compromising myself and belittling myself by pretending to be something I'm not. Well, maybe not pretending. I don't say whether I am religious or not. But if my family already knows and challenge me on something (which my mom has been challenging me on little things here and there), if I keep silent, am I making not only myself but all other atheist look bad?
And if they don't know I don't want them to find out. And it's centered around so much deceit! I HATE it!
I hate not being able to have a family that can't accept me for who I am!
I know I'm really emotional right now, and I'll probably regret ever posting this thread. I know I'll hate myself later for sounding so weak and troubling others with my problems. But, I have to know.
How can I handle this situation better?
Did I take the appropriate actions when I found her comment?
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