(April 10, 2010 at 9:34 am)Shinylight Wrote:(April 10, 2010 at 7:02 am)Pippy Wrote: Unfortunately we don't get to choose whether or not we deserve our families. Or that they deserve to be ours, or something...
No we don't, they do. If they don't act in a way that they should, like family, then they don't deserve to be family..simple as.
Family has nothing to do with 'BLOOD' or 'MARRIAGE', family is they way people treat you as a social unit, if they treat you badly then they don't deserve to be treated well themselves.
Kudos for you, it's too bad enough people do not understand this concept.
Regarding this situation, you need to weigh out the pros and cons. If you aren't ready to take ANY of the possible cons (be sure to consider all possible outcomes of the situation) then you don't need to tell them. Of course, it is your choice and I agree that it sucks acting like something you aren't. I'm amoral so it doesn't bother me nearly as bad. However, sometimes you may have to play actor if the situation calls for it even if it makes you cringe. Just whatever you do, don't listen to your "conscience" on this one. Think it through logically and good luck!
