I dislike traditionalism

[RaisdCath]

This is not a "rant" at all. It does demonstrate that there are clear thinking, level headed individuals in these here United States that realize the "ceremony" demanded by/required by/whined for by society in general and certainly religions in particular....is really a complete waste.
Putting aside the social and religious issues you've identified....just look at the financial ones.
1. All relevant statistics point to the fact that 50.5% of ALL marriages break up.....that is, terminate in divorce.
2. Take a very hard look at what happens in a divorce after 10 to 12 years of marriage to both partners....it isn't pretty. And the longer the couple stays married, then divorces, the worse the situation becomes. It is never pretty.....it is never easy.....and most assuredly harms both parties (not to mention extended families and kids).
3. The real gainers during this horrible process are the lawyers. They win in both cases - both of you loose.

Look at is this way......a coin toss is a 50/50 proposition.

Heads means (other than emotional consequences) neither party looses socially, religiously, legally, or financially.
Tails means you both loose emotionally, socially, religiously, financially, and legally.

So....you both have a 50/50 chance.

Gonna flip? One toss'll do it.

Just a note, I'm British

But you make extremely valid points and are, somewhat, preaching to the converted. I'm not a fan of marriage for the above reasons as well as the fact that I dislike the whole traditional aspect that it naturally entails.

Of course, I'm/ we're not rich by any means, which is why I wanted a small ceremony in a government registry office, then a big marquee in a field (relatively cheap) with all the beer gratis (big expense, but worth it for a party).

But it's not what most others have in mind, and I'm more inclined just to let them moan about it and give them free beer until they don't care any-more.

You had me when you said "Free Beer"!!! Pull me a pint while you and your significant other make the decisions that will make both of you happy.....

Damn the others.....and fill 'er up again!!