(October 16, 2014 at 3:37 pm)Kalyssat Wrote: I am 25, I just moved to PA (first time not living in TX, IT'S INCREDIBLE) and I am very close to my family. The only negative effects would be judgement, sadness, disappointment, etc… I have ALWAYS been a people pleaser, although that tendency has faded as I have grown up, it's still part of me. The weird thing is, if I remove myself from the situation, I know my family would still love and support me but I'm still scared/anxious. When my family members tell me that they will pray for me or to "trust in god", I cringe. I don't really feel guilty but it does feel a bit dishonest. Like I said, I am very close to my family but I also feel strongly about secularism. I can't really be active with my perspective as long as they think I am still a christian. I am stuck.
In these circumstances I'd be open and honest.
Don't just announce it. Sit your family down, either directly or online, explain your reasoning and what you feel. Specify, also, that you're still the same good person they know with only a non belief in deities.
Playing Cluedo with my mum while I was at Uni:
"You did WHAT? With WHO? WHERE???"
