New here and need advice

[Jenny A]

Hi, my family was quite religious when I was growing up and my mother and her husband still are. I told them when it came time for confirmation. That was a lie I wasn't willing to participate in. But I knew perfectly well I wasn't going to disowned. Since then I've had to reiterate about one every three or four years as they like to forget and assume it was a phase. 40 year phases are possible right?

My husband has made different decisions about his fundamentalist family.

Really, you simply have to weigh whether it's worth it. That is inevitably a very personal decision.