RE: New here and need advice
October 17, 2014 at 7:46 pm
(This post was last modified: October 17, 2014 at 7:49 pm by Mystical.)
(October 16, 2014 at 3:37 pm)Kalyssat Wrote: I am 25, I just moved to PA (first time not living in TX, IT'S INCREDIBLE) and I am very close to my family. The only negative effects would be judgement, sadness, disappointment, etc… I have ALWAYS been a people pleaser, although that tendency has faded as I have grown up, it's still part of me. The weird thing is, if I remove myself from the situation, I know my family would still love and support me but I'm still scared/anxious. When my family members tell me that they will pray for me or to "trust in god", I cringe. I don't really feel guilty but it does feel a bit dishonest. Like I said, I am very close to my family but I also feel strongly about secularism. I can't really be active with my perspective as long as they think I am still a christian. I am stuck.
Heh. I came out in a facebook post to my family, and they stiLL tell me they'll pray for me and shit! I thank them with a thankful heart, because I know it's only their way of saying that they love me and they're thinking about me. If they told me to trust in god, I'd tell them a tangible plan of action that I will enact. Nothing can substitute for putting in the hard work. In retrospect, I'm happy I 'came out'. It means that those I love truly know who I am. Looking back I wish I'd been more benign about it. I came out defensive, saying if you guys can post your opinions then I can mine and anyone who doesn't like it can unfriend me. I regret it, but I don't regret defending my beliefs when some of them called me out. Turns out one of my family members who truly daunted me--can't tell me other than his awe at some geometric flower, why he believes in god. But now our relationship is stronger with 90% of my family. My dad cried, I wish my brother hadn't told him.
Anyways, good luck with whichever decision you make. Imo it doesn't matter what we believe, but who we are and how we act.
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If I were to create self aware beings knowing fully what they would do in their lifetimes, I sure wouldn't create a HELL for the majority of them to live in infinitely! That's not Love, that's sadistic. Therefore a truly loving god does not exist!
Dead wrong. The actions of a finite being measured against an infinite one are infinitesimal and therefore merit infinitesimal punishment.
I say again: No exceptions. Punishment should be equal to the crime, not in excess of it. As soon as the punishment is greater than the crime, the punisher is in the wrong.
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Quote:The sin is against an infinite being (God) unforgiven infinitely, therefore the punishment is infinite.
Dead wrong. The actions of a finite being measured against an infinite one are infinitesimal and therefore merit infinitesimal punishment.
Quote:Some people deserve hell.
I say again: No exceptions. Punishment should be equal to the crime, not in excess of it. As soon as the punishment is greater than the crime, the punisher is in the wrong.
