(January 10, 2015 at 12:35 pm)Jextin Wrote:(January 10, 2015 at 12:31 pm)Brian37 Wrote: I really cannot stand the male attitude of "man up" be it about mental illness but even work in that if you don't move up, or if you are poor or supported somehow you are a looser.
I suffer from depression and anxiety, and right now I am in a very bad spot, as far as being judged by others so it makes me very paranoid. My family and friends who know me don't judge me, but society as a whole is far more likely. I do get it. But before you call it quits I can tell you that I have thought of that myself in the past, but looking back at it now, I would have missed a lot that now I am glad I stuck around.
yes exactly, that's the reason lately i just don't feel like talking to people anymore because as soon as they find out about your illness they start marginalizing you and giving you condescending advice as you can see in the above post.
My mom has been financially supporting me, partially for most of my life. I have been out of work for a year and she has been paying my bills the entire time. No I am not draining her account. But there are lots of people who because I have a college education think I am a looser, or would think that.
I am also sensitive and was bullied as a kid and even when I was working the other men at work would treat that sensitivity as bad instead of different.
I am adopted and when I found my biological family, I understood myself better. My older brother and older sister and younger sister have the same issues. It is far too simplistic for those who don't live it to simply say "what is your problem". My older sister has never been able to hold a job for more than a couple months, she is dependent on her boyfriend and kids.
I am lucky I can hold a job much longer, but I have no desire to move up any corporate ladder or manage even a store. The low jobs provide me with time off and now that I take live near my mom it also allows me the time off to take her to her doctors apts and shopping and out to eat. Plus it also allows me to write my poetry.
One thing that does help, even though it sounds hard, is to stop giving a fuck what others think outside those who do not give you a hard time.
