(January 11, 2015 at 12:50 pm)watchamadoodle Wrote: @pearldrumbum, what motivates you to tell your family and friends that you don't believe in Christianity? In my case, I have decided to keep my disbelief private and pretend to be a doubting Christian. I don't see any advantage to telling people, but I feel like I'm living a double-life a bit. Everybody is different, so I was curious about your reasons.
Speaking as a former worship-team leader and ex-Christian, I can only say that dealing with the fallout from telling people I had deconverted was less stressful than living a lie. It took me about a year to "come out" to my wife, which was tough because I knew she would worry about me. Eventually, however, she made the gradual shift from Christian to Agnostic to non-theist (she still doesn't like the word atheist, but for all intents and purposes she is.)
