(March 22, 2015 at 12:52 am)Irrational Wrote: 2. She seems quite upset about something. That is why she is acting that way towards you. What do you suggest be done about this?
Seems. Probably just a teenager being a teenager. I was quite rude around my own mom only a few years ago and for seemingly no reason whatsoever.
I think, from the teenager's perspective, your parents' behaviours can grind on you a lot of the time. My mom would always nag. Still does. Some days you just can't be arsed for it and want some space. Little things like 'eating at the table' just exist to annoy you. When you're in the middle of growing up you don't want to be told what to do all the time.
I don't know the details of OP's situation but if I had to guess it's probably similar to what I was like with my own parents.
I know they are only trying to do their jobs as parents but in my mind they seem to be acting like cunts for no reason. In their minds I'm doing the same.
If I could of asked my mom one thing, it's to not over-react so much if I give a bit of sass. I know myself that I'm being a dick, but when it gets a reaction it just reinforces me thinking "man my mom's being a bitch today". Whereas if my mom would just be calm and ignore what I'd just snottily said to her, I'd probably think afterwards I shouldn't have said that and not be so much of a dick. Inevitably I'd still have days where I'm being a cunt, but IMO the best way a parent can deal with that behaviour is to just not respond to it.
Ofcourse, there are lines. It doesn't mean I'd say give your child license to behave like an absolute prick 24/7. But if they give a bit of back chat every now and then, take a step back and realise they're just being a teenager, and they are probably going to have days where they can't be fucked with the world.
Then again, I'm not a parent. So what the fuck do I know.
