RE: Pissed
March 22, 2015 at 10:27 am
(This post was last modified: March 22, 2015 at 10:27 am by Faith No More.)
Ugh...not looking forward to the teenage years. Both my kids are willful and defiant like their old man, so I'm sure they will be barrels of fun at that age.
Each person has their emotional limits that they can be pushed to, and one thing I've learned as a parent is that you will frequently be pushed to those limits. Because of this, it is inevitable that a parent will react at some point in a manner they wish they hadn't. Since these reactions are inevitable, I think a key part of being a good parent is using these situations as good learning moments.
I've tried to acknowledge and apologize to my oldest when I react in a way I shouldn't have to teach him about owning your mistakes and trying to learn from them. It seems to have sunk in a bit, beacause after he calms down from a typical four year-old meltdown, he'll apologize for it with no prompting.
The most important thing, however, is that no matter how heated things get, as a parent you make sure the child never loses sight of the fact that you love them.
Each person has their emotional limits that they can be pushed to, and one thing I've learned as a parent is that you will frequently be pushed to those limits. Because of this, it is inevitable that a parent will react at some point in a manner they wish they hadn't. Since these reactions are inevitable, I think a key part of being a good parent is using these situations as good learning moments.
I've tried to acknowledge and apologize to my oldest when I react in a way I shouldn't have to teach him about owning your mistakes and trying to learn from them. It seems to have sunk in a bit, beacause after he calms down from a typical four year-old meltdown, he'll apologize for it with no prompting.
The most important thing, however, is that no matter how heated things get, as a parent you make sure the child never loses sight of the fact that you love them.
Even if the open windows of science at first make us shiver after the cozy indoor warmth of traditional humanizing myths, in the end the fresh air brings vigor, and the great spaces have a splendor of their own - Bertrand Russell
