(September 6, 2010 at 11:30 pm)Tesla1991 Wrote: The first Christmas I spent with my boyfriend's (who is recently now my ex) family, I met my boyfriend's brother who was gay. I mean, he had moved in with his partner down in Florida and everything. I ended up becoming quick friends with Kevin and I found myself talking with him more then anyone else (even more then my boyfriend!). After the Christmas dinner, Kenny (my boyfriend) drove me home. We somehow got around the subject of Kevin and my boyfriend said that he was very close to him as well. Then he said something that scares me to this day: "Yeah, Kevin's a really good brother. I love him so much.... It's a shame that he's going to Hell."
Seriously. He said that. This guy is so brainwashed that he thinks that this guy who did nothing wrong in his life is going to hell just because of his sexuality.
Thing is... I started to see things that I found odd. I realized that Kenny's mannerisms and postures were very feminine. He would even tell me time and time again how he thought a male celebrity was attractive. It wasn't before long when I realized that my boyfriend was gay as well. The problem was that I don't think that he realized it or if he did, he was trying to hide it due to his religious beliefs.
That can't be healthy for a person. He has to accept his sexuality before something bad happens to himself or to someone else. So here is my question: How can one get someone to realize what they are doing to themselves without scarring them too much? How can I get Kenny to see that he is gay and that he should abandon his believes and accept who he really is?
And this fellow is your boyfriend? Wow that's heavy. I would say that he has to discover his sexuality for himself. If his beliefs prohibit him from seeing the forest for the trees, as it were, I think you should probably move on. In other words, if he is so ingrained in his beliefs that he can't see that he is gay himself, jump ship. That's not your problem, and it's his issue to deal with.
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We have lingered in the chambers of the sea | By sea-girls wreathed with seaweed red and brown | Till human voices wake us, and we drown. — T.S. Eliot
"... man always has to decide for himself in the darkness, that he must want beyond what he knows. ..." — Simone de Beauvoir
"As if that blind rage had washed me clean, rid me of hope; for the first time, in that night alive with signs and stars, I opened myself to the gentle indifference of the world. Finding it so much like myself—so like a brother, really—I felt that I had been happy and that I was happy again." — Albert Camus, "The Stranger"
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We have lingered in the chambers of the sea | By sea-girls wreathed with seaweed red and brown | Till human voices wake us, and we drown. — T.S. Eliot
"... man always has to decide for himself in the darkness, that he must want beyond what he knows. ..." — Simone de Beauvoir
"As if that blind rage had washed me clean, rid me of hope; for the first time, in that night alive with signs and stars, I opened myself to the gentle indifference of the world. Finding it so much like myself—so like a brother, really—I felt that I had been happy and that I was happy again." — Albert Camus, "The Stranger"
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