RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 20, 2015 at 7:59 am
(This post was last modified: April 20, 2015 at 8:39 am by Nope.)
(April 19, 2015 at 11:03 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote: I was reading the random slut-shaming troll thread and scrolling through it I was a little surprised at the number of people who seemed to think that it mattered at all. It doesn't. I couldn't give half a care about who I'm datings sexual past. I never even ask unless it comes up in normal conversation (which of course it normally does anyway, because sex is a pretty interesting conversation topic.) Why does anyone seem to care?
I do not care in the sense that I wouldn't judge them because of the number of sexual partners that they have had. If someone was a virgin, I would want to know so I could make them more comfortable not because I would be either disgusted or turned on by being someone's first. I would also like to know about possible STD's. Because I am naturally a gossipy type person who loves hearing information that is none of her business, I would actually enjoy hearing about someone's past experiences. My husband and I told each other all about our sexual experiences and neither one of us thought the conversation was anything more than interesting.
I have never understood why some people felt that a person's empathy or intelligence could be determined by the number of sexual partners that they had. That seems silly to me
(April 20, 2015 at 12:49 am)rexbeccarox Wrote: Oh no; he thought stripclubs were dens of indecency (and... yeah... so?) and he was always talking disparagingly about his friends' interest in porn. Total prude. Sex was pretty decent with him, though, as long as I didn't talk or make any noise.
No noise during sex? How would he know if you enjoyed what he did if you don't make noise during sex?
(April 20, 2015 at 4:22 am)Godslayer Wrote: Do I care? I suppose it depends. If I'm going to be in a relationship with someone, it's kind of hard to be with them if they've been many people because I'm having to stack up with all the people they've been with, I'm no casanova, I'm just your average joe, not from a disney movie just someone decent at their sexual craft. I'm not someone who gets around a lot so I usually prefer someone around where I am experience-wise or even less so than me. But do I care what others do? No, have at it. If someone wants to have an open relationship or something like that, cool, I may even be open to that to an extent because long term relationships get old. But, if I ever have a fling, I want it to be with someone who doesn't do it a lot, like me, just a preference.
Why not just ask the person how you can make her happier in bed?
Both my husband and I were somewhat promiscuous when we met. I never compared him to anyone else. If we hadn't been compatible sexually, we would have broke up with each other.
I have had two relatives who broke up with their spouse because they felt that they married too young and never got to experience life. Both were virgins at marriage and yet, they managed to still compare their spouse to imaginary people.
