Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?

[MJ the Skeptical]

I was reading the random slut-shaming troll thread and scrolling through it I was a little surprised at the number of people who seemed to think that it mattered at all. It doesn't. I couldn't give half a care about who I'm datings sexual past. I never even ask unless it comes up in normal conversation (which of course it normally does anyway, because sex is a pretty interesting conversation topic.) Why does anyone seem to care?

I do not care in the sense that I wouldn't judge them because of the number of sexual partners that they have had. If someone was a virgin, I would want to know so I could make them more comfortable not because I would be either disgusted or turned on by being someone's first. I would also like to know about possible STD's. Because I am naturally a gossipy type person who loves hearing information that is none of her business, I would actually enjoy hearing about someone's past experiences. My husband and I told each other all about our sexual experiences and neither one of us thought the conversation was anything more than interesting.
  I have never understood why some  people felt that a person's  empathy or intelligence could be determined by the number of sexual partners that they had. That seems silly to me

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Do I care? I suppose it depends. If I'm going to be in a relationship with someone, it's kind of hard to be with them if they've been many people because I'm having to stack up with all the people they've been with, I'm no casanova, I'm just your average joe, not from a disney movie just someone decent at their sexual craft. I'm not someone who gets around a lot so I usually prefer someone around where I am experience-wise or even less so than me. But do I care what others do? No, have at it. If someone wants to have an open relationship or something like that, cool, I may even be open to that to an extent because long term relationships get old. But, if I ever have a fling, I want it to be with someone who doesn't do it a lot, like me, just a preference.

Why not just ask the person how you can make her happier in bed? 
Both my husband and I were somewhat promiscuous  when we met. I never compared him to anyone else. If we hadn't been compatible sexually, we would have broke up with each other. 
I have had two relatives who broke up with their spouse because they felt that they married too young and never got to experience life. Both were virgins at marriage and yet, they managed to still compare their spouse to imaginary people.   

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I see what you're saying, that someone won't necessarily judge you based on their past sexual experiences. But, why don't they ask what would make me happier in bed? does the reverse situation not count? I mean, what you're saying is that I should change to whatever my potential partner wants. I'm not for that kind of compromise of my whole sexuality or whatever aspect to make someone happy. I'm sure it works out for you and your spouse to be promiscuous and have as many partner as possible, but for me, I still like it more if the person is less experienced like me, but I would soften my position down to this. I would accept somebody if they had been around the block a lot if they were a good match for me. I supposed if I got around more I would have less sour grapes but I was socially awkward and didn't get much.

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Why exactly would you have any problems with it at all? Just curious.

I kind of went over why I would care, not being able to stack up. But I suppose it comes down to not feeling good enough, I have severe social anxiety.