RE: Ask a bored, formerly Jewish, overly opinionated submissive
May 18, 2015 at 10:10 pm
(This post was last modified: May 18, 2015 at 10:13 pm by thesummerqueen.)
Jewish culture:
Many people who lose their faith as Jews find that their parents don't care so much so long as they continue to follow Jewish customs (be it kosher, circumcision, holidays, what have you). Jews have a much more personal relationship with god, because they don't imagine intermediaries. There's just..god. And everyone can pray to him, and there's no third party to go through. So you do you as far as god goes, but to be a good person requires you follow all these rules...many of which are set up by rabbinical texts rather than out of the Old Testament. These rules and opinions sink into you in a way that god belief doesn't.
For instance, I still have trouble with ways of handling charity, because Jews are taught that there are good, better, and best practices, and the 'in your face' sort of charity that some of my friends do (handing stuff out directly to homeless people) is EXTREMELY uncomfortable to me when I was taught that the best way to give charity was for you to never see/know the person you give to and they never see/know you. Better for you is to give things to a shelter director, whose job or volunteer work it is to help these people and get them back on their feet. I've never taken a tax write off for my contributions either. Charity in Hebrew is called tzedakah - "obligation". It is your obligation to help your community. Somehow it doesn't feel like charity or my obligation to help others when I'm getting a 'reward' for doing so. I'm sure many other Jews don't have a problem with this in our current tax structure - that's probably just a foible of mine.
Beyond that, what makes a culture are your values and traditions. Jews value education in a way I've never seen Christian cultures of any sort reciprocate. Whether it's the deep secular education of the less-religious, or the deep knowledge into Torah and rabbinical writings of the Orthodox, it doesn't matter. There's a reason those stereotypes about doctors or lawyers exist. Jews want to breed smart and savvy. And traditions? Look, Jewish holidays by and large are SO MUCH MORE FUCKING FUN than Christian ones. Fun enough to keep celebrating them despite your own lack of religiosity - maybe more so because of it. Passover? The Exodus story is shite. I don't believe in god. STILL FUN. Purim? A huge costume party with huge cookies shaped like triangular hats. Chanukah? Look, if I can't convince you why drinking and frying excessive amounts of potatoes is awesome in the middle of winter, you're hopeless. Especially when you stop to play with fire and exchange gifts. Sukkot? Basically thanksgiving, but outside in a hut covered with greenery, and citrus fruits, and earlier in the fall so it's not shit-grey and terrible outside.
Submission: in brief, I'm the sort of sub that causes trouble. I'm not obedient, and I act up on purpose. The men I submit to aren't the sort that play up to the overly-muscular Dom stereotype. They're not dressed in leather and barking orders and flailing whips. They're all wickedly intelligent, and they like being sassed by a smart woman. I don't worship. I yield...eventually. I make them work for breaking me down as much as they make me work to endure their untender mercies and for my own release. None of my Doms come to me because they want someone who will kneel for them automatically. They Dom me because I won't give in until they've given 110% of their clever cruelty, just like they won't give me my release until I've yielded to their satisfaction.
The ebb and flow of power is so difficult to explain to people who stand outside of it - EL James could never comprehend it.
I've been attracted to guys before in vaguer, more vanilla ways, but never with lasting permanence. It's definitely the Doms that keep my attention through the years. I don't know how to explain the need to be mastered by someone who can prove himself stronger than me - the release is part and parcel with finally surrendering after the guy has proved himself worthy. I want a guy who will stand up to me. It's that friction that always drives me to be better, to be smarter, to be stronger. I guess 'serving' them in ways is related to that, once they prove worth serving.
I probably could have expanded on the culture shit, but I'm drinking, and mah puppeh is distracting me.
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Many people who lose their faith as Jews find that their parents don't care so much so long as they continue to follow Jewish customs (be it kosher, circumcision, holidays, what have you). Jews have a much more personal relationship with god, because they don't imagine intermediaries. There's just..god. And everyone can pray to him, and there's no third party to go through. So you do you as far as god goes, but to be a good person requires you follow all these rules...many of which are set up by rabbinical texts rather than out of the Old Testament. These rules and opinions sink into you in a way that god belief doesn't.
For instance, I still have trouble with ways of handling charity, because Jews are taught that there are good, better, and best practices, and the 'in your face' sort of charity that some of my friends do (handing stuff out directly to homeless people) is EXTREMELY uncomfortable to me when I was taught that the best way to give charity was for you to never see/know the person you give to and they never see/know you. Better for you is to give things to a shelter director, whose job or volunteer work it is to help these people and get them back on their feet. I've never taken a tax write off for my contributions either. Charity in Hebrew is called tzedakah - "obligation". It is your obligation to help your community. Somehow it doesn't feel like charity or my obligation to help others when I'm getting a 'reward' for doing so. I'm sure many other Jews don't have a problem with this in our current tax structure - that's probably just a foible of mine.
Beyond that, what makes a culture are your values and traditions. Jews value education in a way I've never seen Christian cultures of any sort reciprocate. Whether it's the deep secular education of the less-religious, or the deep knowledge into Torah and rabbinical writings of the Orthodox, it doesn't matter. There's a reason those stereotypes about doctors or lawyers exist. Jews want to breed smart and savvy. And traditions? Look, Jewish holidays by and large are SO MUCH MORE FUCKING FUN than Christian ones. Fun enough to keep celebrating them despite your own lack of religiosity - maybe more so because of it. Passover? The Exodus story is shite. I don't believe in god. STILL FUN. Purim? A huge costume party with huge cookies shaped like triangular hats. Chanukah? Look, if I can't convince you why drinking and frying excessive amounts of potatoes is awesome in the middle of winter, you're hopeless. Especially when you stop to play with fire and exchange gifts. Sukkot? Basically thanksgiving, but outside in a hut covered with greenery, and citrus fruits, and earlier in the fall so it's not shit-grey and terrible outside.
Submission: in brief, I'm the sort of sub that causes trouble. I'm not obedient, and I act up on purpose. The men I submit to aren't the sort that play up to the overly-muscular Dom stereotype. They're not dressed in leather and barking orders and flailing whips. They're all wickedly intelligent, and they like being sassed by a smart woman. I don't worship. I yield...eventually. I make them work for breaking me down as much as they make me work to endure their untender mercies and for my own release. None of my Doms come to me because they want someone who will kneel for them automatically. They Dom me because I won't give in until they've given 110% of their clever cruelty, just like they won't give me my release until I've yielded to their satisfaction.
The ebb and flow of power is so difficult to explain to people who stand outside of it - EL James could never comprehend it.
I've been attracted to guys before in vaguer, more vanilla ways, but never with lasting permanence. It's definitely the Doms that keep my attention through the years. I don't know how to explain the need to be mastered by someone who can prove himself stronger than me - the release is part and parcel with finally surrendering after the guy has proved himself worthy. I want a guy who will stand up to me. It's that friction that always drives me to be better, to be smarter, to be stronger. I guess 'serving' them in ways is related to that, once they prove worth serving.
I probably could have expanded on the culture shit, but I'm drinking, and mah puppeh is distracting me.
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