Nica, can I ask you a question, in earnest? Why have you excluded your wife from this conversation? It seems that if you are concerned about your marriage, your wife should be one of the first parties to know. After 7 years of marriage, it seems she has at least earned that.
If she would wrap everything up and parade it to the church elders because you expressed doubts about your faith and her, then that should tell you what you need to know, right?
Also, take a moment and consider what Rhythm is saying about post hoc fallacies. The entire point is that your version of "if he would have followed" JW principles he wouldn't have strayed is just as much post hoc as Rhythm's explanation. The only thing we know is that he was raised with JW principles, and the outcome. If he is an addict, he was an addict before he tried his first drug. JW principles were not going to do anything for him. Teaching abstinence to a teen hopped up on the hormone cocktail is a losing proposition more often than not. JW principles might have made things worse. Had he been taught the principles of safe sex and contraception, he might not have gotten a girl pregnant. Notice the term might.
Either way, it seems that you came here looking for validation. A den of atheists who just want to sin would tell you to join the club, leave your wife, and sow your wild oats. Instead, you got: talk to your wife, explore what you actually believe rather than what you want to believe, and atheism is not a scapegoat for wanting to do something against your religion.
Take what you will.
If she would wrap everything up and parade it to the church elders because you expressed doubts about your faith and her, then that should tell you what you need to know, right?
Also, take a moment and consider what Rhythm is saying about post hoc fallacies. The entire point is that your version of "if he would have followed" JW principles he wouldn't have strayed is just as much post hoc as Rhythm's explanation. The only thing we know is that he was raised with JW principles, and the outcome. If he is an addict, he was an addict before he tried his first drug. JW principles were not going to do anything for him. Teaching abstinence to a teen hopped up on the hormone cocktail is a losing proposition more often than not. JW principles might have made things worse. Had he been taught the principles of safe sex and contraception, he might not have gotten a girl pregnant. Notice the term might.
Either way, it seems that you came here looking for validation. A den of atheists who just want to sin would tell you to join the club, leave your wife, and sow your wild oats. Instead, you got: talk to your wife, explore what you actually believe rather than what you want to believe, and atheism is not a scapegoat for wanting to do something against your religion.
Take what you will.
"There remain four irreducible objections to religious faith: that it wholly misrepresents the origins of man and the cosmos, that because of this original error it manages to combine the maximum servility with the maximum of solipsism, that it is both the result and the cause of dangerous sexual repression, and that it is ultimately grounded on wish-thinking." ~Christopher Hitchens, god is not Great
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