RE: Why be good?
June 4, 2015 at 12:32 pm
(This post was last modified: June 4, 2015 at 12:39 pm by henryp.)
(June 4, 2015 at 2:47 am)Aroura Wrote: It sounds like Wally is admitting to being a sociopath. I'm not saying that to be mean, wally, but actually to just point this out. If he doesn't have (much) empathy, he may be right, it may not be a choice he's making. Sociopaths, (not psychopaths), aren't entirely rare, and one of the key things is that they lack empathy. Sounds like he never had it, and is just rationalizing WHY it's better not to happen...another common trait of sociopaths.
He probably can't help the way he thinks and feels any more than we can. I'm extremely empathetic myself, but I don't chose it, I am just built that way. As long as he's not out hurting people, he's being honest with himself and with us. I'll be honest, I'd never (knowingly) be friends with someone like that because they will use people for their own ends without regard for them as a friend. But he's right....he didn't chose to lack empathy anymore than we chose to have it.
Idon't even know my point here, I clearly agreeing that empathy is a generally usefull social tool or else it wouldn't be a common trait. I feel bad for people without it, but I suppose they disdain people like me, and see us a perfect victims. I guess I'm just saying, he is what he is...accept it, and don't friend him on FB? Sorry Wally. This is a weird way of sticking up for you, I don't imagine you appreciate it either, lol, or that I'll win friends on the other side with this argument, but I do see it as truth, so I just felt the need to share I guess.
See...I married someone like you wally (I didn't know it at the time), a bit anyway, so I do understand, just a bit.
A couple corrections, I do feel empathy for some people. My kid, my wife, some of my family, some friends. The difference I have with the people here, is that what makes me feel invested in others is linked to something more tangible than "Oh, you are Homo Sapien too! Best friends for life!" Although, while that's the stated general belief, I'm not sure human behavior supports that. Sort of like Catholics that don't bother going to church. They probably aren't REALLY believers in Catholicism.
On the good news front, I will not be sending anyone facebook friends requests. I have to remain anonymous so that when I execute my master plan, my enemies won't see it coming, apparently.
Which brings me to Parker Tan's weird assumption of maliciousness. Many of you people are mean as fuck. Just big ole snooty non-empathetic dickholes when it comes to the Theists on the site. That minimalist guy is clearly a terrible human being. I am not that. I am indifferent, not malicious. My purpose here in 'using' you people is just to hear opinions, and bounce ideas off people. Which works out well, because that seems to be the purpose of this site existing. So I don't think I need to shroud my motivations in secrecy.
Re: How do I treat people in real life.
I have a pretty simple philosophy: I like the things I like. And don't like the things I don't like. So if I don't like being around someone, I just don't be around them. In the end, the people I like are the people in my life. And my mother-in-law can try to guilt me into visiting, and I just don't. Because I don't want to spend any of my time on earth around her, so I don't.
Do I tell people if they started being shitty and unlikable, I would stop being around them? I do not. But who does? Seems like that's a pretty standard thing. I'm just a lot better at it than most, because I don't feel some obligation to buddy up to all people because they are human.
