(July 2, 2015 at 10:30 pm)Kitan Wrote: It is finally legal and I have no one to marry. I figured I had a few more years to find someone.
Just because one can marry, that is not a reason to marry. But it is nice to be able to do so, if one wishes.
Anyway, gay or straight, it is not a good idea to rush into marriage. Think about whether it is something that you really want, and, of course, one must also find someone one regards as suitable. Frankly, I thought I would never marry when I was young, not because I disliked the idea, but because I am very particular about the person to whom I would be legally glued. It was legal for me to marry for over a decade before I married.
In the U.S., many people think about the romantic aspects of marriage, but do not properly consider the practical aspects of it. In some states, one is legally liable for all of the debts of one's spouse, so being bad at managing money can be a good reason to not marry someone. I recommend not marrying someone if it would make you afraid to move across a state line. And, of course, do you trust the person to make medical decisions for you in the event of you being unable to do so? That, again, can be a reason to not marry someone. (In my case, I want the plug to be pulled as soon as it is legal to do so [sooner, really], but some people want to drag out their deaths for as long as possible, making their end of life a living hell, and so you need to consider whether your prospective spouse will honor your wishes.)
The upshot is, I recommend that you be very careful about your choice of marriage partner, if, indeed, you really want to get married at all. A bad marriage can really wreck your happiness for many years, and possibly your entire life, so make sure you get to know the person very well before you get married.
"A wise man ... proportions his belief to the evidence."
— David Hume, An Enquiry Concerning Human Understanding, Section X, Part I.
