mehmet wrote:
Excuse me? I reason with my children. My oldest is seven and my little one is one year and a half. I sit and talk with my oldest and he reasons. He is a great critical thinker in his capabilities. His skills will improve in time, but dude, I'll be there to help him develop those skills to the maximum potential. I have never had the need to inflict pain, and the need does not exist anyway. Need to inflict pain? I love you, so here, hurt! That's fucked up. That's so... godly. My son stands out from other kids, because he tries to reason all the time when there is conflict. He will stand there and discuss the issues in hand. I know many of the other kids that surround him are disciplined physically, and these kids usually resort to screaming, crying, or hitting when they are in conflict with other kids. Yes, my son gets mad, but he problem solves.
Even my baby. He loves to throw tantrums where he hits his own head on the floor when he gets mad. I pick him up, sit him in his high chair, buckle him up, place the little table cover over his lap, and then I sit next to him until he calms down. I do this so he doesn't hurt himself, but he hates it. He wants to play on the floor. So now, when I begin to pick him up, I can feel it in his breath how he starts to settle. He knows he better calm down. When I put him back down he changes his behavior. It doesn't work all the time, but we'll get there.
Quote:Children can't be reasoned with most of the time, so it all comes down on actually letting them know that something is bad by administrating some pain from time to time, so that they don't fuck up...
Excuse me? I reason with my children. My oldest is seven and my little one is one year and a half. I sit and talk with my oldest and he reasons. He is a great critical thinker in his capabilities. His skills will improve in time, but dude, I'll be there to help him develop those skills to the maximum potential. I have never had the need to inflict pain, and the need does not exist anyway. Need to inflict pain? I love you, so here, hurt! That's fucked up. That's so... godly. My son stands out from other kids, because he tries to reason all the time when there is conflict. He will stand there and discuss the issues in hand. I know many of the other kids that surround him are disciplined physically, and these kids usually resort to screaming, crying, or hitting when they are in conflict with other kids. Yes, my son gets mad, but he problem solves.
Even my baby. He loves to throw tantrums where he hits his own head on the floor when he gets mad. I pick him up, sit him in his high chair, buckle him up, place the little table cover over his lap, and then I sit next to him until he calms down. I do this so he doesn't hurt himself, but he hates it. He wants to play on the floor. So now, when I begin to pick him up, I can feel it in his breath how he starts to settle. He knows he better calm down. When I put him back down he changes his behavior. It doesn't work all the time, but we'll get there.
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Half Baked
"Let the atheists come to me, and stop keeping them away, because the kingdom of heathens belongs to people like these." -Saint Bacon
