The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)

[Shell B]

Whoa, what?! 

Yes. At the time, I stuck up for him, purely because it was hearsay. They butted heads over a mutual love interest and both were accused of crossing lines. I spent several hours one day talking about it with him via Skype while watching a Pats game, so don't think I just don't get him or you know him better than we do. To be fair, I still doubt that anyone was stalking anyone, especially considering his continued correspondence with people he supposedly victimized, but that is why they didn't get along. I only say all of this because it was wildly public at the time, so I don't think it's betraying anyone's privacy. It was never a secret.

And no, Ofc I’m not blaming you for someone else calling you a cunt.  I think I’ve made it pretty clear to the community and to him that that was a horrible, derogatory thing to say to you.  My point was that he isn’t the only one who stirs the drama pot.  I guess I misread your post to him, because it seemed to me you were comparing him to EP.  Whether or not that would constitute stirring the pot is an entirely separate issue from his ability to handle discussing the guy, but if you say that’s not what you were doing then I will take you at your word.

I said, and I quote from memory, "It's interesting that your new initials are EP." That's probably paraphrasing, but the absolute entirety of what I said. When I said it, I was thinking that he had done it on purpose to keep up his animosity toward EP, not "Hey, you're so much like him that you even took his initials." That was a serious stretch. If anyone wanted to infer more from what I said than what I said, they could have asked me.

I want to point out that I'm not at all upset that he called me a cunt. I'm surprised people are bothered by it so much. I wasn't annoyed at all, except that he brought up my husband, who got decidedly more upset than I was. I don't like it when people upset him, since it's a rare occasion and I prefer him to be happy whenever possible. That made me want to kick him Hammy in the head, if I'm going to be honest. Still, I'm a grown up and I can't kick people in the head or hate people for being a little whoopsy in the self-control department, so I've moved on. The only reason I'm still posting about it is to address things that are specifically addressed to me.