(June 3, 2018 at 7:50 pm)Joods Wrote:(June 3, 2018 at 7:24 pm)SteelCurtain Wrote: TBH it's been a slow devolution for a couple of weeks.
He lost it on me and told me to fuck off forever when I tried to suggest that he should try a bit harder to heed the social cues he knows.
And you aren't the only friend he has turned on so quickly.
It's a pattern. Those who don't, won't or can't see that will once he turns on them. It'll happen. It always does. The second he feels like one of his friends doesn't have his back, they become public enemy #1.
For what it is worth, it has happened to me. He "turned on me" once 2 years ago because I made a thread asking people's opinions on circumsicion, and I worded the thread in a way that was meant to be a humorous penis related thread. It was before I knew circumcision was such a huge deal among atheists, otherwise I would never have done it.
Anyway, he disagreed with me that circumcision can have health benefits and also was mad that I made the thread to be a humorous penis joke type thread, because to him it was a serious topic. He said I was a bad person and that my morals/personality made me unattractive. This was all done when I had always been nothing but nice to him, and wasn't attacking him at all on the thread (I was the one getting ganged up on).
Anyway, it caused me to leave AF for months, not only because of what he said, but because of the personal things other people who I considered friends at the time were saying to me too (that I was a bad person, that I was a troll, etc).
When I came back, I decided to put it behind me and not hold anything against anyone who had been shitty to me on that thread. At the end of the day, I can't control other people's behavior, only my own. And I choose to give people more chances and to let things go.
I don't think Hammy is a bad guy. I think he is a good guy who has difficulties controlling his emotions when he gets upset, and acting on emotional compulsion. It's a classic sign of autism. I try to be understanding of that and to not dismiss him as a bad person because of it.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
-walsh
