(June 4, 2018 at 11:44 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(June 4, 2018 at 11:31 am)Shell B Wrote: There's the but. I know you say you think it's wrong. You also think I provoked it. I called him out for making a passive-aggressive comment and then denying it had anything to do with another conversation. I even showed the post to Tibs before I said anything. I was like, "He's definitely bringing up that other conversation, right?" He agreed, so I posted. You're saying I take part of the blame for what he said because you think I provoked it, even if blaming me isn't your intention. You're saying you think everyone else who has had him freak out on them did too. Steel certainly didn't, if his posting history can say anything about his interactions with people. I let what Hammy said slide off my back the second he said it. I laughed and handed my phone to Tibs, who didn't laugh. The "buts" in this thread, and the conflating of being an asshole with being mentally ill are far worse than an off-the-hinges post about how much of a cunt I am. It's like the 30th such post on this forum. Who cares? What you guys are saying goes much more deep and is much more of an actual problem for actual people who are "victims" or have mental illness.
I'm sorry you feel that I am blaming you. I don't know how else to express my position, so I'll just leave with saying again that you did not deserve those comments and that they were completely uncalled for.
I think Jor is probably right that it's more of an "and" than a but for you. So maybe I'm wrong. It happens (gasp).
That said, I do think you'd benefit from a broader understanding of what it means to be more or less culpable for something due to mental illness. Mentally ill people do know right from wrong the vast majority of the time, and they are capable of apologizing and trying to correct their behavior. In fact, they should do both things whenever warranted. There's a reason why autism isn't a defense in court, but psychosis is. Do you know what I mean?
