I don't necessarily think that's what's happening here. I think CL sees sort of everyday jabs as instigating. In a very polite setting with much stricter standards for interaction, it would be. She has higher standards than we do. As long as we can all agree the kid's reactions are next-level histrionics, I think we're all living in reality.
For the record, this is instigating:
Hi, Hammy. Enjoying the thread?
For the record, this is instigating:
Hi, Hammy. Enjoying the thread?