(November 9, 2018 at 12:04 am)Whateverist Wrote: We used to say we're the site for people of any faith or no faith to discuss. (Sorry but I can't find it anywhere now and I realize the wording isn't right). But in practice we're the site where the majority group are free to be pretty darn rude to theists and what that does is keep the discussion shallow and safe - for us. Discussions on religious topics get highly repetitive and nearly always involve low lying fruit. We don't get many (any?) interesting theist ideas expressed because - who would bother to try under these conditions?
The high degree of free speech we enjoy here is fine for having fun but not conducive to depthy discussion. It just isn't. For those looking for confirmation that believers are slow witted knuckle draggers, this is definitely the place to be since we drive anyone with any self respect away. But I wouldn't dream of suggesting to any theist I actually find interesting that they come here. And there is a good reason we don't try to moderate a better level of civility. That shit is hard to do and the job would be way too onerous to do for free.
There are thoughtful people here and definitely sharper knives than me so I can still have a good time and now and then actually learn something new. But it really does get repetitive so I find myself exploring other sites. Only the xtian ones seem to take on civility but of course most fail miserably.
Ah well, the family here is still less disfunctional than the one I started out in, as well as being a hell of a lot more fun.
Got to disagree on this one. IRL I get shit from the xters on a routine basis, most thru ignorance because they assume everyone is an xter, others thru false entitlement believing I'm somehow less than them. AF is my escape, my therapy, to allow me to behave and speak in a way not allowed in my usual circles. If the xters feel abused, well then welcome to my little slice of hell.
I don't see to many xters come here without an agenda or want an actual discussion. The very few that do show up and are respectful, I'll return that respect. But even then, that initial respect often fades (maybe because of us, maybe not).
Did you not see the behavior that came out when they were given a "safe" space?
I don't have an anger problem, I have an idiot problem.