RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
November 14, 2018 at 9:27 am
(This post was last modified: November 14, 2018 at 9:46 am by DodosAreDead.)
(November 14, 2018 at 9:02 am)Joods Wrote:I know, and those are all good things. The point is that you've been going back and forth for at least 4 pages here, and a few more in the CIJS thread a few months ago. Wyzas still maintains that he doesn't regret saying what he said. Everyone's made their point and showed whatever they believe in and think. Anything more you say would just be childish, at this point.Quote:I've seen most of you write things that are smart, well thought-out, kind, often outrageously funny, etc. And yet here is this same group of people, at loggerheads over something that has already caused someone immense grief. Do you guys honestly feel like anything anyone says at this point is going to significantly change anyone's behavior or thoughts?
No. But the majority of us do value empathy and at least some sort of compassion towards our fellow humans. To expect less is to remain ignorant to someone else's plight.
(November 14, 2018 at 9:02 am)Joods Wrote:I should have been more clear in my previous post. I meant to say 'he was trying to do something he thought was positive.' Added the italic part. Whether you think what he was trying to do (the way I see it, helping her 'move on'?) was positive or not, whether it had the intended effect or not, etc etc is a completely different point. Also, the 'too soon' is in line with his original intention.Quote:bold mine.
In what way, is a guy who jokingly says " Um.... I'm pregnant", after a woman just painfully expressed her grief, positive? Also - his follow up post of "Too soon?" is also inappropriate and clearly shows zero respect towards someone who was supposed to be his friend.
I'll wait while you come up with anything remotely justifiable about that. There is, and I repeat because it seems to be a huge missed point here, Nothing remotely funny or positive or nice or good or decent or kind or respectful or helpful about what he said. It was just flat out fucking rude and uncalled for.
Again, this is all based off of his claims in this thread. If he's just saying it was to help her move on when in reality he actually was doing it out of malice, then yeah, that's pretty damn low. I just don't think that's what happened.
PS: I'm not trying to justify anything he's said. I agree with you, it was completely inappropriate. Why he thought it was appropriate is beyond me.
The word bed actually looks like a bed.