(November 19, 2018 at 6:03 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(November 19, 2018 at 6:00 pm)Shell B Wrote: So, are we to make a rule that says it's okay to be uncivil if someone else starts it? These are important points to make, and questions for all of you to ask yourselves.
For the record, I'm pretty sure saying someone is doing something petty is calling them petty. You know I have no objection to this kind of banter or discourse, but you do. I want to know how people really want this to go, because there are going to be times when the rules seem pretty good against a foe, but not so good when applied to you.
I am not a perfect person. When I'm being attacked, it is difficult at times not to say something back after a while. I do try very hard to be civil and keep my cool around here through whatever gets thrown my way, but fall short at times. I hope that if each side makes a better effort, it'll be easier for both to behave.
Of course you're not. However, you are making a case for certain behavior. I think the place to start for everyone is to model that behavior. No one else has to make an effort for one person to behave. All they have to do is want to.
I know it's difficult not to say something back, not that I've ever really tried such a thing. I'm not big on tongue biting. That said, you want us to be bigger people. Change starts with you. Not you you, but you in the sense that everyone who wants to see something happen should be working for it, not just playing it lip service and waiting for everyone else to do the heavy lifting.