(November 19, 2018 at 6:13 pm)Shell B Wrote:(November 19, 2018 at 6:03 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: I am not a perfect person. When I'm being attacked, it is difficult at times not to say something back after a while. I do try very hard to be civil and keep my cool around here through whatever gets thrown my way, but fall short at times. I hope that if each side makes a better effort, it'll be easier for both to behave.
Of course you're not. However, you are making a case for certain behavior. I think the place to start for everyone is to model that behavior. No one else has to make an effort for one person to behave. All they have to do is want to.
I know it's difficult not to say something back, not that I've ever really tried such a thing. I'm not big on tongue biting. That said, you want us to be bigger people. Change starts with you. Not you you, but you in the sense that everyone who wants to see something happen should be working for it, not just playing it lip service and waiting for everyone else to do the heavy lifting.
I try to model it. But you're right, I should try harder.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
-walsh