Peanut Gallery Commentary on the Staff Log of Bannings and such like.

[Catholic_Lady]

I've been away for a few days, but came back to check out what was going on, as I've been in contact with Stimbo and he told me again that he no longer feels welcomed here.

I don't know exactly what happened behind the scenes, and I'm not defending whatever it was he may have done/said to upset people. I'm sure whatever it was, it was wrong and uncalled for.

I guess I just wanted to point out again that he has been through an extremely traumatic, devastating loss that turned his whole world upside down, and has been understandably struggling to recover from that. I know for myself, if I lost my husband I would be all kinds of messed up. I dont think it is something I would ever recover from. My husband is my life, and my life partner. I can't even imagine what that must have been like for Stimbo to go through losing HIS life partner. He didnt have kids, so she was all he had in terms of nuclear family.

He is dealing with enormous amounts of pain, and feelings of extreme loneliness and isolation from having gone through something not very many people can relate to, and from being unable to fill the void of losing a life partner by finding someone else.

I guess what I'm trying to get at is that he has/is suffering enough already. Whatever wrongdoing he is responsible for behind the scenes, he is already doing "penance" for just by living his life without his life partner and feeling sad and lonely every day.

I would encourage maybe more patience/understanding with him, or at least refraining from clapping back with hurtful comments. Even if you think he deserves them, just remember that he's been dealt with something far worse than he ever deserved... and perhaps just leave it at that.

People have the right to say what they want, this is just my 2 cents.