RE: Peanut Gallery Commentary on the Staff Log of Bannings and such like.
August 19, 2018 at 2:39 pm
(This post was last modified: August 19, 2018 at 2:47 pm by Catholic_Lady.)
I believe you, Jack, and I don't think there's suspicion in anyone's mind that you are making this up. Also, I'm sorry that you were a victim of assault and imagine his words must have been very hard for you to hear and deal with. Let me make it clear that I don't blame you at all for having taken the action you did.
As for Stimbo, if his version of events is true, he regretted what he said and apologized. Because of this, I imagine his comment was made out of drunkenness and hurt, and that he wasn't at all serious about raping someone, and would never do that. Not that it's ok to ever say it, especially to say it to a victim of assault, and not that Jack's actions weren't justified. I just don't think those words stemmed from true feelings towards women and true intent.
I imagine his offering money for some physical affection comes from a place of deep loneliness, as humans need physical touch for mental health. And this is coming from a catholic girl, so obviously I think prostitution is wrong and am not condoning his behavior. Just saying I don't think he is a bad person.
I am aware his wife died 8 years ago, but I think this is the type of loss that never really gets any easier, and perhaps only harder as time goes by and you are left only with what could have been - a wife and kids in his case. A family that he will never have. So I wouldn't dismiss his pain as being something that happened years ago.
Shell and Jack, I can see your sides as well. You have both been open here about having been victims of abuse. Even though I don't know what that is like, I can understand better now why you both feel so strongly about Stimbo's words, and it makes sense.
I think I've said all I needed to say here about this. Time to move on.
As for Stimbo, if his version of events is true, he regretted what he said and apologized. Because of this, I imagine his comment was made out of drunkenness and hurt, and that he wasn't at all serious about raping someone, and would never do that. Not that it's ok to ever say it, especially to say it to a victim of assault, and not that Jack's actions weren't justified. I just don't think those words stemmed from true feelings towards women and true intent.
I imagine his offering money for some physical affection comes from a place of deep loneliness, as humans need physical touch for mental health. And this is coming from a catholic girl, so obviously I think prostitution is wrong and am not condoning his behavior. Just saying I don't think he is a bad person.
I am aware his wife died 8 years ago, but I think this is the type of loss that never really gets any easier, and perhaps only harder as time goes by and you are left only with what could have been - a wife and kids in his case. A family that he will never have. So I wouldn't dismiss his pain as being something that happened years ago.
Shell and Jack, I can see your sides as well. You have both been open here about having been victims of abuse. Even though I don't know what that is like, I can understand better now why you both feel so strongly about Stimbo's words, and it makes sense.
I think I've said all I needed to say here about this. Time to move on.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
-walsh
