There does seem to be something about masculinity that makes people personally offended somehow by other peoples lack of it, in a way that i'm not sure exists between straight women and lesbians, i don't think it's entirely down to repressed gay urges
“The larger the group, the more toxic, the more of your beauty as an individual you have to surrender for the sake of group thought. And when you suspend your individual beauty you also give up a lot of your humanity. You will do things in the name of a group that you would never do on your own. Injuring, hurting, killing, drinking are all part of it, because you've lost your identity, because you now owe your allegiance to this thing that's bigger than you are and that controls you.” - George Carlin