RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 14, 2017 at 11:16 pm
(This post was last modified: July 14, 2017 at 11:32 pm by Regina.)
CIJS - You have to learn how to give multiple faces, and I would expect a man of 50-something years to know that by now.
The situation...
So basically there was this guy at my work. He was Egyptian, I don't know if that's important for the story but keep in mind, he was Egyptian, and he'd been a little bit off with a few people, but not in a serious way.
Anyway I had been having a conversation with this other dude, this one was Ethiopian and more my age (there's lots of nationalities going around here, it's easy to identify people by it). Suddenly when this older Egyptian guy hears us swearing, he comes into our conversation, jokingly mind you, I don't think he was serious... "mind your language". At that point this Ethiopian guy had decided to clap back, verbally, then the Egyptian one started talking about "hitting people on the mouth" or some shit.
Now, the way I see it, we were all men in that situation, and I'm pretty sure he wasn't serious by the way he said it. I put it down to "lads' banter". Regardless, I'm not that easily threatened especially by someone who just frankly isn't that intimidating. I just said kind of nonchalantly "wow and you're violent..." as if to say he should be careful how he comes across at work, where we're obviously supposed to be grown and sophisticated.
Next thing I hear... he's said the same thing to someone else, but this time it was a female he said it to, and one he didn't really know like that, because he hadn't been speaking to her a lot like he had been with us. So she's pissed and feeling threatened, and to be honest, the way she reacted almost makes me think something more was said too that I didn't hear about... because her husband had apparently got wind of it and was ready to come in and kick the shit out of this guy.
So in the end he was fired, probably over some stupid comment. Did he take it well? Ugh no, he stormed out the warehouse looking shocked at it...
Look, I said "wow and you're violent..." and that should have been your warning, really. You continued to use that kind of language, and with women no less who don't know you... you're shocked? Mkay...
The situation...
So basically there was this guy at my work. He was Egyptian, I don't know if that's important for the story but keep in mind, he was Egyptian, and he'd been a little bit off with a few people, but not in a serious way.
Anyway I had been having a conversation with this other dude, this one was Ethiopian and more my age (there's lots of nationalities going around here, it's easy to identify people by it). Suddenly when this older Egyptian guy hears us swearing, he comes into our conversation, jokingly mind you, I don't think he was serious... "mind your language". At that point this Ethiopian guy had decided to clap back, verbally, then the Egyptian one started talking about "hitting people on the mouth" or some shit.
Now, the way I see it, we were all men in that situation, and I'm pretty sure he wasn't serious by the way he said it. I put it down to "lads' banter". Regardless, I'm not that easily threatened especially by someone who just frankly isn't that intimidating. I just said kind of nonchalantly "wow and you're violent..." as if to say he should be careful how he comes across at work, where we're obviously supposed to be grown and sophisticated.
Next thing I hear... he's said the same thing to someone else, but this time it was a female he said it to, and one he didn't really know like that, because he hadn't been speaking to her a lot like he had been with us. So she's pissed and feeling threatened, and to be honest, the way she reacted almost makes me think something more was said too that I didn't hear about... because her husband had apparently got wind of it and was ready to come in and kick the shit out of this guy.
So in the end he was fired, probably over some stupid comment. Did he take it well? Ugh no, he stormed out the warehouse looking shocked at it...
Look, I said "wow and you're violent..." and that should have been your warning, really. You continued to use that kind of language, and with women no less who don't know you... you're shocked? Mkay...
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"Ironically like the nativist far-Right, which despises multiculturalism, but benefits from its ideas of difference to scapegoat the other and to promote its own white identity politics; these postmodernists, leftists, feminists and liberals also use multiculturalism, to side with the oppressor, by demanding respect and tolerance for oppression characterised as 'difference', no matter how intolerable." - Maryam Namazie