(August 28, 2017 at 12:06 pm)Hammy Wrote:
(August 27, 2017 at 5:52 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: I hear you. I went through a ten-year slog of being essentially alone, some dating but no meaningful love, and it's rough when people cannot or do not see the great
I've never even had one date in my life. But then... who the hell would want to date me? It's not that there's anything wrong with me, I'm starting to learn, it's that there isn't really a match out there for me. I'm just too weird. And this "uniqueness" of mine is perhaps not such a good thing after all.
I can understand this. Regarding romance, I've had some opportunities, but I did not make the most of them. I think that a big part of this result was my mindset that I was too weird or unusual for any woman to be interested in . Interestingly enough, the women who were interested in me didn't think that I was weird or unusual at all; however, my insistence on projecting my mindset onto them caused their interest to dissipate.
With that said, I appreciate your post. However, if an opportunity does present itself to you, please don't immediately start writing yourself off as I did. IMO, developing the flexibility to expand beyond one's preconceived self-image/limitations is one of the hardest yet rewarding endeavors that an individual can undertake.