Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...

[Edwardo Piet]

CIJS (on the heels of a discussion with a very "traditional values" older family member of mine...) I would much rather regret not having kids than regret having kids.  Which is why I plan to have zero.

Can always adopt when you regret not having them, whereas you can't really chuck them away after you've had them without a rather large amount of dislike being thrown your way

I have always said that if I ever had kids I'd rather adopt than have my own. My brother independently came to the same decision for the same reasons! Great minds think alike.

The theory is that there are already enough people in the world and there's no need to create another person. However, there are orphan children out there who need good parents. And if I'm a good parent and I adopt them I make sure they don't go to a bad parent, too.

If I had a kid: I would 100% adopt. But I'm unlikely to have a kid as until I can consistently take better care of myself responsibly... I'm certainly not going to take care of a living breathing being until I can take better care of myself. I'm not even willing to get a bet yet. And I'd rather be no parent than a bad parent.

Maybe one day I will adopt. Maybe

Of course if I ever met my dream woman and we fell in love and had an amazing sex and fantastic times together and we got along incredibly for years and it never developed into petty arguments.... I don't have a thing for marriage but when the ideal happens I wouldn't say no to marriage. And I might suddenly find myself wanting to create a child with my ideal partner. Even if there is 'no need to'.



But there's probably about as much chance of me meeting my dream girl as there is of Trump sending a Tweet that leads to world peace.