(April 5, 2018 at 11:06 am)pocaracas Wrote:(April 5, 2018 at 10:56 am)mlmooney89 Wrote: Long winded monologue that pretty much says I understand you Losty.
Oh Mandy... as justified as your fears may be, you must let your daughter's family do their "job". "It takes a village" to raise a kid. Don't do it all on your own.
Trust her with the people in whom you trust. You can't control everything, sure, but don't be overprotective because of a slim chance that the people you know are trustworthy may turn out to be abusive.
Mistrust breeds mistrust and, before you know it, you'll be left with little help.
I know I need to trust people, especially Tony, but it's just hard. It's like a ticking time bomb of when will he snap. Because my step father was my hero and idol and I looked up to him for ten years without issue. Then one day... there was a change. If I trusted him and he snapped what's to say someone else I trust won't. I know I know I shouldn't have gotten married and had a kid if I am so unstable in this sense but I think it will just take time to learn to trust in different situations. My ex husband was emotionally abusive so I didn't trust anything Tony said at first, I've come to trust him now as a husband so I bet I will come to trust him as a father. I mean I trust that he won't drop her, he won't let her starve, he will shower her with love and attention, etc I just secretly hope that my daughter is ugly so no man will want her like 'that' until she is in college and can make her own decisions as an adult. 14 is not old enough...
“What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it's supposed to be.”
Also if your signature makes my scrolling mess up "you're tacky and I hate you."
Also if your signature makes my scrolling mess up "you're tacky and I hate you."