(August 20, 2018 at 9:38 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: LFC, they tell me as though they either don't think it effects me at all, or as though telling me is somehow easier on me than allowing me to find out on Facebook or through word of mouth. I don't know why they would think that. Because then I have to be like "Oh wow, congratulations, I'm happy for you." ...if I found out on Facebook or something, I can just hide their post from my timeline and not have to say anything, which is obviously easier. And yeah, this whole thing has made me realize how un intuitive and just stupid most people are. People will talk to me about their kids/babies like nothing ever happened to me. And like I'm not dealing with subsequent infertility and the probability that I will never have another child apart from the one who died.
No, I don't tell people it hurts me.
Maybe they expect me to be the type of better person who would actually be happy for them. Maybe it's my issue that I'm not, I don't know.
Oh, CL. You are not less good as a person for having those feelings. My god, you lost your baby. Not feeling joy for these people is completely normal and human. I can’t even imagine how anyone could feel happiness like that for other people ever again. Don’t blame yourself for your terrible pain. You’ve been through enough. ❤️
Nay_Sayer: “Nothing is impossible if you dream big enough, or in this case, nothing is impossible if you use a barrel of KY Jelly and a miniature horse.”
Wiser words were never spoken.
Wiser words were never spoken.